Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Hey Jealousy!!

Songs to listen to after a bad break-up and/or divorce....

I needed these songs...they got me through gritty, tough times. Divorce, break-ups with after divorce boyfriends. Even the one I eventually married. Maybe they can help you too.

If you're looking to cry your eyes out: 

Hoobastank--The Reason. Yeah by the way the reason may not be you, but you'll still cry your eyes out 'cause you'll still think it's you.

No Doubt---Don't Speak. Well really, don't speak, 'cause you know just what he's saying. Just cry.

Eve 6--Inside Out. Still cry to that one. Break-up or no break-up. It's powerful, just as powerful as sick like ginger ale. Prophetic.

Vince Vance and the Valiants--All I want for Christmas is You. Not the Mariah Carey version, this version is sooo bluesy and country while being 80's I can't get enough of it. The video is ridiculous. But you'll cry anyway.

Gin Blossoms--Found out about You. I sure did. Dangit.

If you're looking to move on, but you're still shaken:

Puddle of Mudd--She Hates Me. Replace the she with he, queen with king, and you're in business.

ELO--Hold on Tight to Your Dream. Ok, part of this is in French, but who cares? You're holding on tight and that's all that matters.

The Clash--Train in Vain. Damn you, you didn't stand by me. No not at all. No way.

Incubus--Drive. Yup, I am taking that wheel and I am driving right through that fear. Haunting lyrics.

Joan Jett--I Hate Myself for Loving You. I really do. Enough said. 

Gin Blossoms--Hey Jealousy. This is definitely one of my favorites. I identity with this song so much, I know it verbatim, blare it regularly and yeah you may have been the best I've ever had..but HEY I am moving on and the beginning riff is bangin'. I've often wondered the story behind this song as the songwriter unfortunately committed suicide. Makes me love it all the more. 

So there they are. Just a few suggestions I came up with on what songs to blare during your storm. Crying it out is good. Banging it out and moving forward is much better. Take it from me. 

I've done both.    

Friday, April 11, 2014


It's amazing how many incredibly kind people I meet. And as I have stated before, I am always taken aback by kindness. Don't know why, maybe I was innately programmed to distrust most people, and I was usually suspect of any kindness people show toward me or others. I used to think in the back of my mind, what's in it for them?

But then I met the Incredibles.

Superheroes come in all shapes and sizes. The people I never expect to be genuinely kind..they are superheroes.

The people I work with, the caseworkers, the underdogs of government, working under the most stressful conditions, dealing with impossible deadlines, confronted with a litany of problems. They serve the most vulnerable people of our county. They serve me as well. With grace. With dignity. With kindness. With aplomb. With love. Incredible.

Working with me. Me working with them. 

The people I continually meet through Blue Route Vineyard (my church), my small group, the YoungLife committee members, all who welcome me in their homes, their lives. With grace. With kindness. With love. Incredible. 

Praying for me. Me praying for them. 

Friends. The people I have been lucky enough to call friend. Ever present for me, always; through the fun times, the tough times, the ugliest of times. Listening to my rants, holding my heart through my tears.

Rooting for me. Me rooting for them. 

Daughters. Loving me with all their hearts. Me loving them with every ounce I can muster. Incredible.

Husband. Pounding the pavement, going above and beyond my expectations in every way throughout this painful time. Him loving me, me loving him. 

Family. The generosity and love from my mother and family is truly INCREDIBLE.

The emotional help I have received throughout this difficult time in my life blows my mind. While my husband continues to look for work, the prayers, the encouragement, the love I have consumed is incredible.

I am surrounded by Superheroes. I am grateful.

God has given me THE INCREDIBLES.